一個男孩遇到一個心儀的女孩; 男孩約女孩上街。 約會時間到了, 又一分一秒的過去，男孩仍非常有耐心地等待著; 但心裡七上八下，不知女孩是否忘了或把時間記錯，終於在約定時間一小時後女孩出現了，臉上寫滿歉意，（她不能打電話給他，因為那時沒有手機），口中直說抱歉，因為來時路上發生交通事故而大塞車。男孩客氣地說：“沒事，你肚子餓了吧？”於是男孩請女孩去吃飯，他們開始談戀愛成為情人，後來走入結婚禮堂。
十多年後的今天, 男孩和女孩長大成熟了，日常生活的對話都用手機和短訊溝通。近來,男孩溫柔地用眉毛鑷子拔著女孩頭頂上的幾根頑固的白色短髮，發現它們才被拔掉幾天又冒出來了！女孩發現最近男孩有一個新的嗜好– — 園藝。 男孩和女孩的談話不斷地被兩個孩子打斷，但他們還是盡最大的努力在愛中互相呼應。
活在愛裡就是要樂意給予– –即你如何能讓對方感覺到被愛。 比如,對太太在家裡照顧孩子的辛勞說些鼓勵支持的話; 當先生在工作中遇到挫敗時給他一個愛的擁抱; 從伴侶的眼神中你就能明白到他的感受，因為你比任何人都了解他和愛他。
Falling in love is easy, wouldn’t you agree?
Boy meets girl; boy asks girl out; girl is late for their date by an hour (and couldn’t call because these were pre-cell phone days, so boy waited patiently and may or may not have had to take care of some business in the bushes – thank God it was dark!); girl finally arrives (and is very sorry, but traffic coming home across the bridge was bad); boy and girl go to dinner, fall in love and get married.
See how simple that was?
Now, let’s fast forward some 4,985 days. Boy and girl are now older and wiser wireless and have most of their daily conversations via text; boy lovingly plucks girl’s gray hairs with an eyebrow tweezer – those short ones on top of her head keep growing back!; girl discovers with some amusement that boy has a (very recent) passion for gardening; boy and girl are constantly
interrupted by two clones of themselves, but do their best to stay in love and be connected.
Eeks. Life and love are not so simple anymore, is it?
Sure, life is a lot more complicated now. But it’s also a lot more real. Falling in love is easy because it’s all about the unknown, the unexpected, the discovering. Seeing someone at their best and showing the best of yourself. It’s about the feelings someone else makes you feel.
I used to think falling in love was more fun than staying in love. Well, sometimes it is, but the truth is that real joy comes more from giving than receiving.
Staying in love is all about the giving – how you make someone else feel. It’s the supportive words you offer after her long day at home with the kids; the embrace you give when he is feeling defeated from work; the ability to understand just exactly how the other person is feeling by looking at him because you know him better than anyone else.
And that part of love – the already-discovered, the expected, and the known – is pretty awesome.